So we are here to grovel, apologize and offer our most sincere “I’m sorry.” We took a week off from The Nest, but in all fairness, it was for good reason. Last Saturday, May 7, Brett and I got engaged! It was completely unexpected on my part and an absolutely wonderful surprise. Not only did my future husband (I LOVE saying that) knock the proposal outta the park, but he did a pretty dang good job on the ring too.
This lead to an unplanned pause on the blog because who wouldn’t want to jump in feet first of all things wedding? The love and support has been overwhelmingly wonderful. No less than 48 hours later I had an amazing friend bring over a couple bridal magazines and champagne (thanks Rach!) and the next night was spent at my parent’s kitchen table with all my siblings’ wedding information and guest lists and wine (in my defense, it was also my mom’s birthday so the wine was a must).
Brett says to me, “Kelly. Just enjoy this. Why on earth are you planning already?” And what I was trying to help him understand is that this is how I am enjoying it. I cannot even begin to explain the joy that I have felt perusing through various wedding websites and bridal magazines.
But what about the blog? Well, now we have another moving piece to consider.
It’s only been a little over a week, but I am quickly learning that my idea of an affordable wedding is completely different than Minnesota Bride magazine’s idea of one. Or for that matter, any magazine or blogs’ idea of a budget-friendly wedding.
We have a tight a budget and a large guest list. Two things that do not go well when planning a wedding. So, not only would we like to share our journey of home improvements and DIY projects, but we’d also like to show future brides that it is possible to have a big guest list and small budget.
Our house is the number one priority right now. However, I don’t have the patience to wait four years to save up money to afford a wedding. It is ONE day. Why on earth do we have to decide to either get married or put in a garage? Why can’t we have both?
I recently read somewhere that the average wedding costs somewhere between $20,000 and $36,000. That is our attached garage and a kitchen renovation. Or in other words, that is outrageous.
If you have that kind of money, that is awesome. I am truly happy for you. But Brett and I don’t have that luxury. And to be honest, if we did, we still wouldn’t spend that amount on one day. We would actually do the garage and kitchen and still want our wedding to be frugal.
Which brings me to the next dilemma that I have stumbled upon. The sites that say ‘affordable’ aren’t really that affordable. Their idea of frugal is $5,000 for the venue, not including the food and drinks. How in the world is that affordable? Maybe I am just that cheap, but when I think affordable, I think $1,000. Even less would give them extra brownie points.
Coming back full circle – I am adding another facet to this journey Brett and I are on and would like to be as transparent as possible during this planning process. I struggled to find resources that showed possibilities of doing an inexpensive, but large wedding and we’d like to pay it forward for future brides. We are going to do this and going to kick ass at it. So why not share the love? It is after all what weddings are all about.
Since there isn’t much out there, we’re going to carve out our own path because hey, we love that. And also because we cannot be the only people who have this dilemma.
In between the chaos of planning, we’ll still offer our home reno updates and DIY projects because that is why we’re here in the first place and it is what we love to do.
So bear with us as we go along and as always, feel free to share any tips or tricks you’ve learned along the way.
All our best,